So I called H tonight to discuss an issue about our D.I ended up bringing up our R (not exactly DB way, I know).
I expressed how I didn't think it was fair how I was getting blamed for things in the R when he does some of those same things.
He stated he only wanted me to love him and he didn't feel like I did this.He also stated that the way were are acting now (stand-offish) is how he feels our whole R was.
He stated that when I told him on Mother's Day that I didn't want to spend the day together, he understood it as I no longer wanted to do things together and spend time as a family. I told him how I felt he was living the single life but also getting the benefit of a family.He said he only wanted to do what would make our Ds happy. I told him that if that was the case then him coming back would really be what would make them happy. He said we could "pretend" and I told him that I wouldn't want it that way.He said he didn't trust that we could make it work.
I stated I understood how he would feel this way and that I felt like I was showing him how I cared but that I didn't know if he saw it that way and I had no way of knowing if it was working.He said it didn't matter at this point.
We brought the conversation back to the original issue of our D and decided that we would talk to her together.
I feel like anytime we have a talk about our R, this is always how it ends-no resolution! Just frustrating!
