I too need to "turn the dim up" and am looking for ways to do that.
Are you home every night? Maybe you could start being "out" one or two nights a week. I don't mean all night, just out for the evening. And of course being appropriately vague if W asks what you are doing.
How do you think you could become less available to your W?
Me 46 H 56 M 22 yrs S22, D20, Twin Ss18
You teach people how to treat you by what you allow. What you stop. And what you reinforce. ~~~~~~~ A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.
