Originally Posted By: Highway61
I feel like telling him if he wants to be separated just to leave. I am tired of him leaving me hanging and not saying anything to me, and not being affectionate with me. I feel I am waiting around only for him to tell me anyway that he wants to separate. I am so sad that he is willing to split up our family, and so angry. I wonder why if he wants to leave he is still hanging around the house?? This is all so confusing frown


Whoa Hwy61.

Breathe. Breathe again.

Are you 100% certain you want a divorce?

I'm guessing not, because you are here.

I'm guessing you just want the pain you are in to STOP.

BUT, his leaving will not stop your pain smirk

Scariest part of your post?

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I feel I am waiting around


Have you read DR? There is no "waiting around"! You have work to do Hwy! What are your GALs? Your 180's?

The recovery of your marriage could take a couple of years - that's way to long to spend in a waiting room wink

And you're right, it is confusing. For you and for your H too. If he's still living with you he hasn't decided to leave you and the M yet. Why do you want to make that decision for him?

Read. And Reread Sandi's rules
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2250607#Post2250607

Give you and your H time. Lots and lots of time.

I know its really hard, and that it hurts a whole bunch.

Hang in there, you can do this.

Me 46 H 56
M 22 yrs
S22, D20, Twin Ss18

You teach people how to treat you by what you allow.
What you stop.
And what you reinforce.
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A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.