It looks like MIL is going to try surgery. Thank heavens. Its scheduled for Monday. H says he's called off for Mon & Tue (fingers crossed that he doesn't end up losing his job!! Of course, he will be losing pay )
I have had very few very short texts from him. I am attributing this to stress over his mom - there is a definite difference in "tone".
S161's relay team came in 11th out of 16 - top 9 qualify. But they were seeded as 16th, so they did better than expected. And they are 3 juniors, 1 sophomore, so they can hopefully come back next year stronger and faster.
S162 responded "I've been busy" and "Its OK" to my text queries about his time in FL. SMH, its kind of like talking to H. Lol.
It was kind of hard to go to the state qualifier alone. To see all these families making a big day of it, tailgating and such. But not MizJay... a 2 hour drive alone (well 2+ thanks to an indecisive train and a joy riding tractor) find a parking spot, power walk into the stadium (convinced I had missed the event thanks to the stupid train/tractor ~ not to mention me getting a wee bit lost) amazingly locate S! who requests a t-shirt, more race-walk to t-shirt stand, more race-walk to stadium seat, watch race while attempting to maintain composure and not hyperventilate or break into tears, hand t-shirt to S, race-walk back to car and drive 2+ hours to get in an hour of work. I texted H the race results (as he had requested) and a couple hours later he responded with "tell him I'm proud of him."
Sometimes I just want to throw that phone out the window... or better yet at H's head.
Seriously though, I was going to start backing off on the text thing - taking longer to answer, not answering each and every text, but then he has the mother issue. And I don't feel right doing the dimming atm, I feel like I should be available to him, should be supportive. (Of course, I feel he should be doing the same thing, at least to the kids if not me...)
Ugh. Feeling yucky and grumpy. Oh well. If by chance the sun comes up tomorrow... perhaps it will be a better day. And at least I have it off - had reserved it in case S161 made it to the state finals tomorrow. So yep, tomorrow will be a better day.
~Peace~
Me 46 H 56 M 22 yrs S22, D20, Twin Ss18
You teach people how to treat you by what you allow. What you stop. And what you reinforce. ~~~~~~~ A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.
)
