Kelela, Sorry you find yourself in circumstances to be here, but HERE is the best place to be given the circumstances.
Good advice has been given to you so far.
This is a very long journey--the journey of a lifetime. Fasten your seat belt and be ready for the ride of your life!
We all understand and feel your pain. We know your pain. We have lived it. Many of us for a long, long time.
First and foremost, take care of yourself. Breathe, eat, sleep. Surround yourself with people who love you.
Don't beat yourself up about the past (not following Sandi's Rules--we all did that to some extent or another). Just try to adhere to them as best as you can.
Tell us more about your situation...why do you think your marriage lacked intimacy? What things can you work on about YOU (180s, they are called here) that will be permanent positive changes in your life?
Come visit my thread...I recently posted the things I've learned through this journey so far. One of the biggest is- I will be okay...no matter what.
Honestly DBing may ultimately save your M, but it may not. It WILL save YOU. And, that my friend, is the best part. You can't see this right now. Heck, most of us can't--a lot of days I can't, but......as time goes on & DBing becomes part of who you are you will be okay.
Post often, as it is the best therapy to come here! No money required!
M- 18 T-21 S-14,11 & 10 BD 6-18-2012 (OW-EA) H moved out 11-3-2012 10-5-13 Me- I want a divorce. I want to move on w my life. 11-25-13 Jointly filed.
