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Originally Posted By: kml
The reason they got rid of the edit button, 25, is because, once they decided they didn't want people contacting each other offline (probably a liability issue), people tried to circumvent it by posting their contact information for a minute and then deleting it after the other party had copied it down.

That's why they disabled the edit function.



thanks. This actually makes sense...but I still think I want the edit button. But I will process and ponder it more.

Thank you again!


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JS

glad to hear your mom did well AND tolerated the anesthesia well.

(H is an anesthesiologist. When I was hospital counsel I once heard a surgeon tell a patient that "anesthesia is a little like a potion we can't always predict"...but, um, it's actually science. And the surgeon had perforated the liver of the patient in question. If I had not heard his "blame the anesthesia POTION" story myself, I would not have believed it...but I digress).

You sound remarkably serene JS. That's a good strong place to be.


((( )))


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S30,D28,D19
H off to Alaska 2006
Recon 7/07- 8/08
*2016*
X = "ALASKA 2.0"
GROUND HOG DAY
I File D 10/16
OW
DIV 2/26/2018
X marries OW 5/2016

= CLOSURE 4 ME
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Thank you all for your caring concern. This means a lot to me. I have not been able to focus much on this board recently.

@Val: Thank you for your continued prayers. I appreciate it. I believe actions like these contribute to positive outcomes. There is more to this than there is time to post.

@Kaffe: I am sorry to hear about your Mom. I’ll add her to my thoughts and prayers. My mom tells me to never get old and that only the first 100 years are the hardest.

I hope her hip replacement is without incident and she recovers quickly. If this is her only infirmity the change following recovery can be dramatic. Believe in the best outcome and work toward it. Maintaining independence and self determination is a strong aspect of this culture. As people lose the ability to do so generally they often place great emphasis on aspects of life they can control. It is important to keep them as part of the process as much as possible.

My mother is 86.

@gunny: She is better than she was and she’ll continue to improve in the coming months. The goal today is simple walk 10 feet and pivot. It is attainable.
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@25:”Anesthesiologist” makes a little more sense now why he had to deploy again. Good ones are a rare breed. There is a lot of science backing what medical professionals do and there is some art to it also. Sometimes the variables presented by the individual patients make what they do considerably less cookie cutter.

Mom has asthma and chronic bronchitis, since she was a teenager, severe enough to warrant a COPD diagnosis. She has never used tobacco and does not have emphysema. Some of her triggers are mold spores, dust mites, animal dander. It is difficult to remember a time when she did not have some issue breathing. She has been under general anesthesia before and each time her care team has shown concern as a result. How well she breathes following a procedure is a marker for me what the next few days are likely to be like.

Journaling: We brought mom home late yesterday. I was concerned as we left the hospital what the next few days are going to be. There was no stated plan other than the aftercare form from the surgery center and what my daughter and I had loosely discussed.

A representative from the hospital called after we arrived at home and inquired how well mom was doing. We now have some PT and a visiting nurse scheduled through next week. We’ll evaluate at the end of next week planning the next steps.

DIL will visit with GD on a loose schedule. A family friend will fill a couple of hours Thursday afternoon. My sister is schedule in at the beginning of next month. The church mom belongs to is volunteering to stop by and bring a few meals. My daughter and I have split up the rest of this week. We’ll muddle through what we haven’t planned and deal with the crisis’s as they come up.

The stairlift company is sending a “consultant” I’m hearing salesman to the house next Tuesday. The biggest hurdle is getting mom to accept this assistance. Funding is a secondary concern. I cannot explain why she has always been resistant other than to point to lessons from the change resistant curve.


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Mom passed this morning. I'm still processing. Life changes again.


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So sorry for you and your family. Take care.

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I am so sorry for your loss. Your family is in my thoughts and prayers.


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Oh wow, I'm so sorry JS.

Truly sorry for your loss. May the knowledge that she is in the arms of a loving God, bring you some comfort in this time of loss.

And it is a big loss.

((( )))


M: 57 H: 60
M: 35 yrs
S30,D28,D19
H off to Alaska 2006
Recon 7/07- 8/08
*2016*
X = "ALASKA 2.0"
GROUND HOG DAY
I File D 10/16
OW
DIV 2/26/2018
X marries OW 5/2016

= CLOSURE 4 ME
Embrace the Change
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JS,
I'm sooo sorry darling. Please take care of yourself. You're in my thoughts.

(((( ))))


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So sorry for your loss. Hold on to your memories and take time to grieve - it is never easy to lose your mother.

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Stunned,
I am truly sorry for your loss, God Bless!!
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