Swimming Upstream Against the Current

[albamarie]

from a former LBS:

My advice is to hang in there if you can, and remember, you can not control how THEY act in a midlife crisis, the only thing you can control is your behavior!

After trying some tough love and realizing that wasn't getting me anywhere, I decided the only one I could control was myself, and that is what I did. I kept some distance, treated him when he initiated, as I wanted to be treated. I was nice and kind and the loving person I have always been.

Portia, I am sharing the words I have to read everyday to myself. Funny how hard it is to have to hold back love and attention. I always say we must be very special people on this site! The biggest pain we suffer is not being allowed to be the loving person we are and have to watch as everything unravels.

Glad you didn't respond! I don't know if his response was very revealing as to where his head is, I just think he tried to keep it light, he's still doing wrong, what is there to really say to his beautiful girl he left behind!

<3 dm