"how do you think it would have affected your experience if your wife never had an orgasm"
Even when dating? It would have made me feel invalidated as a man as if I couldn't satisfy her.
"and never let you touch her in a way that might help her have one?"
Then that's all on her and she hasn't ever taken time to explore her own body. Again, she doesn't know what she's missing out on and she's being incredibly selfish for not acknowledging that important part of YOUR life. I'm sure you accommodate MANY things that are important to her and she won't do it for you based on her own personal pride and insecurities.
I know many women who have acted and believed the way your wife does. Once they were opened to the incredible possibilities and actually took the leap to do it, they had amazing sex lives with their spouses.
"I know something is off, but I'm not sure what I'm missing or how much."
You are missing out on true happiness.
"I usually experienced sex with my wife as only me having intense erotic feelings, and my wife only observing and accommodating at best."
Sounds like you're the giver and she's the taker.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
