I wish I could but I don't have a cent to my name I don't even have a credit card. I'll I can do is post here and read other storys for now.
If there's a library in your area see if they can get a copy of DR in, if you could only read one thing that would be it. That said, there's a lot of great info on these forums too, and there's an entire forum for just SSM's:
And hopefully when the pastor from the church comes back he will be able to help us with our situation. I'm hoping that there is still a big chance our marriage can be safed .
There's a chance that your M can be saved, but I want you to also have realistic expectations of what you're up against. These situations take a long, long time to resolve. Getting back together in less than 6 months is practically a miracle, it almost never happens. Even less than a year is pretty infrequent. It often takes much longer. And sometimes it never happens. For now any attempts you make to try and save the M are going to have the opposite effect. Trying to involve a pastor for example, or trying to push your H into counseling. Those are just forms of pressure and he wants no pressure right now. If you apply any pressure at all it'll just push him away. So you have to pull back and give him time and space. You work on you, become the person he was attracted to in the first place. Get out and get a life (and no, that doesn't have to require money, you can go to the park, reach out to old friends, make new ones, do volunteer work, etc.) Good luck!
