Husband has one foot out the door!

[chasingpavements]

Hi, thanks everyone. I have realized that I have been pressuring him too much lately so I have given him some space. He is still living at home and we have not discussed anything in a while, and I am not bringing up the subject. I have spoken to a coach, who has suggested to keep things light and positive around the house.

I have read DR and it has helped me a lot! I cannot begin to imagine what my H is thinking right now... I am terrified of becoming a single mother right now, to 3 young children. I am terrified of losing him. Although, as the days go by his hurtful words that he has spoken lately about our relationship are echoing in my head, making me wonder if I want to really live with someone who says these things. He is really in a dark place right now, I can tell he is constantly thinking about us, and where this is headed.

He stated is worried we will continue on together only for him to come to the same conclusion that he still wants to separate. He is feeling so hopeless about us right now, and it is hard for me to be on the receiving end of that hopelessness. I am done giving up telling him to try to stay positive and hopeful, as you obviously cannot tell someone that! So right now I sit and wait.. and try not to let my emotions get to me.