I have not heard anyone with this same story to the point where she says I'm awesome and never tells anyone I did anything wrong, she just wants to live alone.
Yes, there are very similar stories. Mine is one. W said she still loves me (but isn't "in love"), she respects me, she even told our MC that she enjoys the sex. She went on and on about all the wonderful things I do- great father, excellent fix-it guy around the house, keeps the yard perfect, etc. etc. But she kept saying "I just don't want to try". She even told the C that she's sure if she did try that the M could be saved, but she just didn't/ doesn't want to. The only difference is we've been married about twice as long as you and our kids are older. Otherwise your sitch sounds very much like mine. My W also started anti-depressants around the time our 3rd was born. I have no idea if that's a contributing factor or not, but I will say that I've read many articles since BD about A/D's and how they can make people fall out of love with their spouses and even their children. But that's a dead end because if she's like my W, you'll never get her off of them. So you do what you can which is give her time and space while focusing on yourself and your kids.
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She thinks we are still a family but we just aren't together, even wants to still go on our vacation to her parents in MD in August together as planned. To which I say ?????????
Many things WAS's do are confusing. Just roll with it. If she becomes involved in an affair then you may consider cutting her out of the family activities, but for now there's no harm. I'll just add that for several months after BD my W stayed home and actively participated in family stuff too. Once she moved out all that changed though.
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I do not call her, text her or talk to her about us. Only about the kids. Don't send her cards or flowers or say I love you.
Good, you're taking the right approach. I think it's Mach1 that says "keep all talk to bills and boys" or something like that. Keep in mind that this takes time, don't expect to see any positive results from your W in days or weeks. It'll take months or maybe even years.
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It's just so hard be patient.
You can totally do this. I am the most impatient person in the world. Take a look at the timeline in my signature, I'm coming up on one year since BD. If I can have this kind of patience, anyone can, LOL!
