I have been having dreams about exw. Not sexual in nature. I saw her in our local Acme this weekend. She didn't look well. We didnt speak since i don't think she saw me.. Maybe they are guilt dreams? I feel weird about feeling happy? Having plans, fixing the house all without her input or involvement? The dreams are usually about her making demands of me? And when I pick up my D at their new home the place looks sad? Really is a nice and expensive place but looks depressed. Maybe is me. Maybe I want her to suffer? I don't know what to make of it. Maybe this is how your brain cleanses itself from bad memories. Just throwing it out there.
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
I don't know your sitch but after my ex divorced me and I saw him, he looked like he was on the brink of having a breakdown. I haven't seen him in two years now but can't say I ever dreamed about him. Although we will never know what is going on in their minds, sometimes I think that they have moments of guilt and sadness about the loss of us I think its normal to want them to suffer after what they have done. I still love my ex h but I hope he is unhappy and has a hard time when he thinks of me.
I have had dreams about my ex. I suppose after being together so long it is normal. I figure it is my brains way of working situations out. With four kids, three still go with their dad at least on the one night a week thing, I still see him often.
He kept carrying on with OW, now his wife. He never took anytime alone. I am not sure he knows how to be alone. He has never felt like he did anything wrong. Perhaps the dreams are there to help me say what I need to say.
Kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
I also have dreams about my ex although not a frequent as in the past. He has been gone nearly 12 years now. Like Kat's ex - mine never had alone time. If he had - I think he might actually have gained perspective. Ow was a master manipulator (not that he was not without a ton of faults). She called all the shots in our split. They married. He is now an every other weekend "grandpa" to 2 kids that OW's son has spawned (both from ex girlfriends he has nothing to do with). He is even taking the older one to Disney World I'm told yet he has not once had one of his own 3 kids overnight or on a vacation in 12 years.
i have dreams about my ex. they cause alot of sleep difficulty to this day. they are never of good times. sometimes they start out good but turn to sh1t with a quickness.. alot like we were in real life..lol i dont miss her as much as i used to. i am not attracted to her at all anymore. in fact she isnt even my type
