T, And, based on what your H said about "screwing up" & will you kick him out? And your answer, "probably not." Aren't you sort of giving him a "free pass" on making another mistake...and this time he would be doing this knowing that as long as he is honest with you that you "probably" would be okay with this?
Just saying it sounds a bit confusing to me.
I don't know if I believe in sex addiction. However, here is the way I look at this right now. We aren't peicing. We are living together, he is working on himself. Going to IC, journaling, praying, reading books IC suggests, etc. I contine to work on myself,going to IC, praying, journaling, etc. Just like an alcoholic, saying "you drink again and you are out!!" won't keep them from drinking. They will just lie and try to hide it if they do in fact drink.
I've learned through this process that I have no idea how I will feel about something until it happens. So, for me to say "You think about/text another/sleep with another woman and your are OUT is just me trying to excert control over his behavior. If it happens, we'll see how I feel then. It may simply be that I will then know I will never R with him. Does it mean he has to move out, no. If we are peicing and it happens, who knows. We have spoken about this at length, that was just the short version. My deal breaker is lying. That is very clear.
Today he is in the home, helping with the kids, working on himself and trying to rebuild my trust.
M: 9 yrs T: 13 yrs H:34 Me:35, S4, D2, S 7 months Dday 11/12-PA & multiple PAs Dbing 12/12 S 1/13 7/13 H moved back in basement. 8/13 #3 born 10/13 still cheating 10/13 He moves across country, I file for D
