I also have dreams about my ex although not a frequent as in the past. He has been gone nearly 12 years now. Like Kat's ex - mine never had alone time. If he had - I think he might actually have gained perspective. Ow was a master manipulator (not that he was not without a ton of faults). She called all the shots in our split. They married. He is now an every other weekend "grandpa" to 2 kids that OW's son has spawned (both from ex girlfriends he has nothing to do with). He is even taking the older one to Disney World I'm told yet he has not once had one of his own 3 kids overnight or on a vacation in 12 years.
