My W has been all over the place in minutes...and of course I got (and still do sometimes) the "special" treatment...she'd go from sweet to one of the kids to ice as soon as I stepped in the room. Part of the script/process... T^2
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
PON.... happened just yesterday & the day before for me! Today, was a little better.
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
Thx for comment it is almost comical wife eats dinner with me yesterday and talks my ear off and today ice box txting men.
Alanon group is a perfect fit for me and just what I need for my codependency issues. Great support and glad I went
They told me keep coming and I will recover. They basically told me living with my wife during MLC is like living with a dry drunk
No different advice take focus off her and fix you.
They did say something a little different. They said if I feel disrespected and hurt by wife hiding txt from OM then it's ok to say it and walk away and not care about her reactions to it
also LA my wife has distanced herself from me yet again. She goes to bed everynight without saying boo to me. Even if we talk like last night it is par for the course
Yep. She got panicky, engaged you in talk, you talked, she was satisfied, now she must back off.
This is a dance lol!
My stock phrase when H and I talk is "Can you clarify that?" I don't want to misrepresent, misunderstand or read into anymore
I also like how you re initiated the convo and the fact that she was receptive. We all have our expectations and the fact that you redefined what the conversation was and the point you were trying to make, says a lot. The fact that she responded to it tells me it was the right thing to do
