Struggling!

[MrBond]

The word was s"u"x.

I do feel bad for you.

"Sorry, I was reacting outside the context of the thread. My apologies. Yes, I am a bit sensitive to being preached at, especially by people who think I should simply divorce someone when the sex situation can't be resolved, as if that mattered more than anything else."

Well, I really do believe that sex is part of the overall M experience. It's communication that can't be explained.

"Or by those who claim that if the sex doesn't work, the whole relationship must somehow be dysfunctional,"

I don't think it's dysfunctional. I think to a certain degree your W is, because this is something that's important to you and as a spouse, I think it's important to be giving (to a degree of course) to your needs.

"I'll admit I don't have any recent memory of the kind of sex that's "an expression of love"."

Then I feel sorry for you. There's nothing like getting feeling so "in tune" with someone that the feelings of sex amplify it. I actually really feel sorry for your W because if there's nothing wrong with your W physically, then she's actually stopping herself from experiencing the greatest emotions on earth. There's nothing more intense and meaningful than making yourself vulnerable to another person and letting them explore who you are physically, mentally and emotionally.