Thank you, though it wasn't directed to me, I got a lot from it...
You're welcome, T^2. You are a very special man.
Originally Posted By: Raine
You're a really special person to be willing to spend so much time helping others in such a difficult time. Thank you for that.
Raine, thank you for your kind words. And you are welcome.I am honored to be able to help in any way. I remember when I was going through this and the people who helped me through. I will never forget them. I am just paying it forward.
Originally Posted By: Takevowsserious
But you were on my mind...
Btw - It's a little over six hours.
Oh T, that's doable!!!!! One day. So strange that we were both thinking of each other today. Well, not really.
But I can tell you right now, this trip isn't going to break me.
I know it's not, T.
Is this worse than having to give birth to a baby you know is not going to survive?
The answer is always no.
T, I am so very sorry. I cannot imagine the pain. I lived through it with my sister. It is beyond words.
Sometimes, it's all about perspective.
Yes, it is.
But she is not "nothing" to him - she seems to definitely mean something...
I know you dont see it now, T, but I promise you, what he feels for her is not love. How could it be? This is a relationship based on lies and deceit.. What they feel isnt real. It's a clinging to a life raft before it goes under. It is built of mirrors and sand.
When my xh and I spoke about his affair, he said it was an adrenaline rush, it was two people lost, who felt that no one else understood them. He said it was the catalyst to get him out a marriage that he thought was causing his unhappiness.
I asked him, did you ever love her? He could have lied, but, for what purpose? We were long divorced and moved on. He said, how could I have loved her, UR? She was more broken than I was. I used the act of trying to fix her to get me to forget about what was broken in me.
They will always have those vacation memories together. That hurts.
Do you know that I had receipts of places they have gone? I asked him about some of them. I swear to you that he looked at me as if I had two heads. He said, my body was there, but that was it. I honestly dont remember.
I want to believe so much that my H could love me again, that we could rebuild our M, that we will remain a family.
Believe it, T, because it is possible. I have seen it. There is always hope. Always.
Thank you for sharing not only your experiences and wisdom, but your heart and soul. This place isn't the same without you. I mean that.
Thank you.
I hope and pray too that as you face each new day and your challenges, that your new shift will be a welcome one to bring you more peace and happiness.
