Originally Posted By: stilllookingup

Do you think she never ever wanted to have a family or do you think she would have wanted to start a family if she was happy in the marriage?


This question REALLY woke me up. Woke me up to what COULD have been. About 1-2 years after we got married she did mention the possibility starting a family. I even caught her looking at names online one day. She said that she'd be ready in a year.

So what happened in that year's time? I don't really know. She did start getting into her photography more. She started scrapbooking too. I can't remember if I did anything that would have changed her mind. Maybe that's when I slowly started to "settle" into our M and stopped giving her what she needed...I'm not sure. Ultimately I surmised that deep down she figured out that a family wasn't for her and that the idea of having our own family was simply because I wanted one. WOW...if that's true then she loved me more than I can imagine. Maybe I never loved her as much as she loved me?? Maybe I'm not capable of that much love???


Me:38, Wife:36
M:8
T:13
No kids
Bomb:3/10/13
W moved out:3/30/13
Started D paperwork: 10/14/13
D final: 12/30/13
To a future of love and happiness...