2 friends from high school got together after a little reunion at my house 2 years ago. He had been divorced for a while, she was still in the first year after her husband of nearly 30 years had left her at their daughter's wedding. Her h was a cop as is one of her sons. She took early retirement (teacher) right after that & moved into her cottage not far from me. Our high school buddy got a home nearby although mostly he lives with her (her @ advised not having him there full time)
J(her new boyfriend) had done a lot of drugs growing up. I thought he had stopped using a long time ago but apparently he still smokes pot regularly. She has never smoked or used any drug ever. Her parents refuse to visit her and her cop son has disowned her because of BF. So hard on her.
We have socialized with them a bit - I have always liked both & they seem happy together - he is very good for her. She is still quite fragile.
Such a stigma attached to past addictions, obviously it is something to be aware of but many people are able to kick their addictions for life.
Most new Rs are good. Everyone is on their best behavior. Sounds like you know what to watch for. I hope he continues to be the man you want him to be
