LA we had some discussion. I didn't know the right answer. She maybe thought we didn't need to pay it. I said I tend to agree. That I'd rather spend the money on something we need if the fee doesn't help our cause etc..
So did you 2 come to consensus?
'She maybe thought'...do you know what she thought, did she say what she thought?
Do you see this might have been a place where the 2 of you could work together to problem solve?
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She asked me about a neighborhood fee that was due if we should pay.
Unless there was more to the conversation, it sounds like you said 'deal with it' in a sort of nonanswer-answer way.
Can you see why she may have gone to bed without saying anything else? Yes, it's a childish way of handling an issue but it got your attention.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
Learning to listen also includes responding to the speaker in a truthful and appropriate way. Asking for clarification, reflecting, taking time to think before responding.
You just did EE not too long ago...were communication skills included in that workshop? If so, call on your support group from that to help you develop these skills.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
Thx La. I just called my W and talked to her about the issue. I said that we started talking about it last night and then hockey game came on and we didnt' resolve. That I didn't want her to have to make the decision on her own or feel it was dumped on her. She was very receptive to the conversation. It went well. We decided to get more information and that we didn't have to decide today.
LA that was some valuable feedback and didn't realize I had done that. It added even more pressure to her to make a decision. As far as EE went it wasn't really focused on communication per say. It was about healing and making new connections.
also LA my wife has distanced herself from me yet again. She goes to bed everynight without saying boo to me. Even if we talk like last night it is par for the course
Can someone comment about MLC mood swings ? Is it common that spouse can turn it on and off. In other words with friends sweet as pie. She only does this to me. Nobody else and it's a light switch
"Can someone comment about MLC mood swings ? Is it common that spouse can turn it on and off. In other words with friends sweet as pie. She only does this to me. Nobody else and it's a light switch"
Yes this is very common.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
