Yes, you need to learn to sit quietly and really listen to what she's saying. She wants the attention and validation right now and most likely doesn't appreciate your talking too much. LOL!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
snodderly she wasn't talking R talk. Just small talk. I did catch myself rambling about a neighbor last night that bugs me. I caught myself and stopped because it is a repeat gripe. She asked me about a neighborhood fee that was due if we should pay. I told her that I didn't know the right answer. That I would support her either way. I asked her what she thought about it. She gave me her opinion.
It is so odd for her to engage with me so much then get up and walk out of the room and goto bed without saying a word. I mean it isn't odd i'm use to it. but in the grand scheme of things it is weird
PON, It doesn't matter if she talking R talk or just chatting about life and day-to-day activities. One of the hardest things to do is listen when you are a someone who talks. I know...I was one too. Sometimes they just want to think out loud or just talk and don't want someone to always respond back or give them advice. You'll see what I'm talking about as you go along.
Actually, it's not odd at all that she gets up and goes to bet w/o a word. My xh was like that as well. They are so focused on themselves and the outside world just doesn't fit into their equation right now.
Try to have a great day. Keep the focus on you!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Thx Snodderly. I will try to be a better listener the next time she decides to speak with me again like that. I know from experience the more I talk the more likely I say something stupid. I will practice STFU.
Tonight is Alanon and open mic. Ironic going to alanon then drinking beers at open mic lol
I play acoustic guitar. Been playing for 16 years or so. Sort of put it on hold when all this crap happened. First week I went and watched but... last week I got up and sang 4 songs. 2 originals. I really look forward to going and it is perfect fit because kids in bed and I leave
She asked me about a neighborhood fee that was due if we should pay. I told her that I didn't know the right answer. That I would support her either way. I asked her what she thought about it. She gave me her opinion.
Why didn't you discuss this with her? Was there more discussion than this? What did you say after she expressed her opinion?
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
LA we had some discussion. I didn't know the right answer. She maybe thought we didn't need to pay it. I said I tend to agree. That I'd rather spend the money on something we need if the fee doesn't help our cause etc..
I play acoustic guitar. Been playing for 16 years or so. Sort of put it on hold when all this crap happened. First week I went and watched but... last week I got up and sang 4 songs. 2 originals. I really look forward to going and it is perfect fit because kids in bed and I leave
Good for you!
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
