Riding the storm out, or at least trying to!

[RosaLinda]

"Asked me to rub lotion on his back because it was dry/itchy - go figure? Wonder if he cleared that with twinkle twat??? Lol!"

I agree with Raine, TVS, there is no way Twinkle, or any of our H's OW, truly comprehend what it means that we still live in the same house with our Hs. It must kill the OW that our cheating Hs just aren't committed enough to them to leave us. For whatever reason. What can these OW be thinking?

Raine, my H's OW is a Russian Tramp who flew to NY from Moscow to spend 2 weeks with him. When he told me "his friend" was coming, I told him she was welcome to stay at our house. Isn't that what a "friend" would do? He said she had no desire to meet me (I bet!) because he had told her how horrible I am. I wonder how he justifies living with someone who is so horrible to her. Or your H's OW. Being married but "done" is enough for her?

I think it must be worse for you TVS, as you and Twinkle used to actually be friends. But maybe better for you in a way, as you know just how crazy Twinkle actually is, and can anticipate how much she will get on his nerves. Five days together with her will most likely turn out to be three days too many. 

You're right to prepare yourself for fallout! Could get ugly!

"Working on that whole "letting go" thing. Get it in theory, putting it to practice is much tougher."

Me too. I get the theory of letting go, detaching, GAL, 180s. Working on our own happiness, becoming better people. The theory that if and when we ever get back together, we'll both be different people, and it will be a new R. But in reality, I just want my old H back.