My WAW story

[newman7977]

"What is she contacts me? Ignore? Be short? Be friendly?"

Just be polite let her initiate all contacts, don't ignore her just be short on your responses, don't be rude. Create some mystery for you and act busy. I read some of your sitch, you seem "too available" for her.

"Newman, it's terrible that you had to wait a year to find out about your W's A. It's SO unfair!"

Yep it happens. She hid it well, but they got sloppy and I saw one text and that's when I requested all phone logs. It also didnt help that I thought that she couldn't do such a thing. I started snooping and confirmed the EA...that's why I think it's good to be informed. If I would've found out her EA early after the bd maybe she's not entangled too deep after a year. But after the bd I did all the wrong stuff up until a yr later that I found out the EA and DBing. I already pushed her deep into it. When I looked at the calls/texts logs the first contact was a month before the bd. As the EA went on, the more it magnified all our normal problems, I mean who doesn't have Problems in R? So I believe in WAS pushing for S Or D are involve in A because someone is waiting on the side. It's a form of security it's human nature.

I also believe that the sitch won't improve if the WAS is infatuated in A. So it's up to you if you want to wait until the A dies. But make sure your W don't lose any more respect for you by enabling her A.

In the meantime make the changes for you, and as we say detach and gal. LRT is good I've been applying it to save me and helps me to detach. So far my W is confused about leaving and filing.

I learned a lot from Sandi, follow her posts. You have to regain respect and confidence do it for you. Don't sugar coat ur WAW's A. Stand up for yourself and value yourself. Protect yourself, consider separating your finances, I mean you don't want to be paying for her A right?

Consult a L, doesn't mean you'd file but at least you will be informed about your rights and the process of D in case she serves you. Don't panic. The first consultation is free, check out your local bar assoc. Most of all let her do all the work if she wants to D.

Just my thoughts.

Newman