Choosing to be the way we are choosing to be specifically FOR the WAS/MLCer or excluding the WAS/MLCer... is time to question what we are doing and why.
KD, if I understand you correctly, I have a question...is it fair to say that there are "levels" of what we would do for others...ie, what I would do or tolerate for my kids, my W, my immediate family, very close friends, is greater than what I would do for a friend, neighbor, stranger. To be specific, I have tolerated, or "made allowances" for things my W and kids have done that I would not do the same for just anyone. And I am not seeing that this is questionable, or problematic...so, could you elaborate more?
2.4, W has done the same throughout this...sorta like she sometimes forgot I'm the Quasimodo enemy, with the plague, koodies and bad breath at times..it was sorta funny to watch her reaction when she realized she was out of character...
WFM, imo, a journal is what YOU create for yourself, that aids you in remembering, understanding, etc in a fashion that works for your unique self...I don't believe that there is ONE way that is best...I don't think my "way" of journelling would work for most people, lol. It has its own logic and meaning that only probably works for me...what would work for YOU is your own unique style...go create it! YOU have to do this work yourself, FOR YOURSELF...! This is part of the path of discovering WHO WFM is...with or without H.
And to end this post, W made an appt with IC...I hope the C is pro-marriage and W is mostly honest, and not just looking for what she wants to hear...time will tell. Not in my hands.
Nite all! T^2
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
