Riding the storm out, or at least trying to!

[Raine]

Hiya Linda!

TVS, no way Ms. TT has any idea. My H says he does not talk about me or our R with anyone. (Either he would have to lie, or tell them how great I am and leave them confused. Hah!) I asked him what he tells them about me, and he said nothing. I said, then why are they okay to be with you? And he just said he told them because we are done. I said, and that's enough for them? They're okay to be with a guy who is still married? He looked so surprised. Oh these stupid, silly boys.

My opinion based on this is his interactions with you are an off limit topic, for sure nothing spoken about times when there was anything positive going on. It's so confusing that OW would be so accepting and unquestioning. I guess that's why their with a married man right? If they were anything special, they would never settle for that.

Sounds like your mom and my mom are in the same boat. That sounds exactly like something my mom would say too. My mom knows only the obvious, plus been there for me on hard days, and that is enough to make her want to slap him silly. So does his own mom actually. I can only imagine how bruised and battered he would be if I wasn't protecting him. Your husband is pretty lucky he doesn't have the world coming down on him either. Hopefully one day he will realize that took a lot of strength and love on your part to look out for him during this time of his life.

If all it takes is for H & TT to spend enough time together to realize they don't want to spend anymore time with each other, much less a lifetime, don't you just want to lock them in a room and get it over with? That's what you told me. Push them together. I don't think it matters much with my H. They're all disposable, and he'll just keep picking up a new toy until the fog is over. But with your H, seems like that's all it would take for him to wake up and realize the greatest thing in his life, the best thing he is ever going to have, has been right in front of him the whole time.

Every time I read your thread I think, I NEED TO DO YOGA! I have some DVDs. It's going to happen.