Sandi your post has really made me think. And honestly has brought me down a few notches . For me an affair, probably of any variety, is non-forgivable. I 100% trusted my wife in our M and if she was in an A I could never look at her the same. I'm 99% sure of this. I would no longer feel that our relationship was special.
If I assume that she is in fact having an A, my brain will force my heart to turn away from her and never look back. I wish I could prove or disprove an A because I hate to assume something that will have such monumental repercussions. This really suks!!
Newman, it's terrible that you had to wait a year to find out about your W's A. It's SO unfair!
As of now I have decided not to acknowledge her birthday (coming up this Friday). What's the worst that can happen...divorce? (Sorry, attempt at some humor).
Me:38, Wife:36 M:8 T:13 No kids Bomb:3/10/13 W moved out:3/30/13 Started D paperwork: 10/14/13 D final: 12/30/13 To a future of love and happiness...
. For me an affair, probably of any variety, is non-forgivable. I 100% trusted my wife in our M and if she was in an A I could never look at her the same. I'm 99% sure of this. I would no longer feel that our relationship was special.