Thank you all for the quick responses. I actually literally ordered DR and DB books today and they are going to come in the mail Friday. I have read all of the Sandi2 rules and have been following them. I moved out yesterday and today will mark the first full day that we haven't seen each other.
I do indeed have a meeting with a counselor early tomorrow morning which I am definitely looking forward to.
I am 24 and my W is as well. we have not had any kids Today my W asked me to come home for the weekend and watch the animals while she was away for the weekend. I had not previously agreed to do this but in her eyes she believed I had. In an attempt to not re-negg on a situation she thought I had committed to I replied: "I wasn't aware that I agreed to stay there. However I can stay there this weekend for the animals. I cannot keep catering to your needs anymore M. We are separated and until we work things out I cannot keep doing this. To which her response was: "Thank you I appreciate it"
This was not the way I usually would have responded. I am very easy going and do tend to cater to her problems which doesn't usually help... Her response was rather subtle I expected some smart ass snappy comment.
I am 24 as is the W. We have only been married since August. It was all her timeline, she as the one pressuring the engagement and the wedding followed 9 months after.
It is odd because now she is the one saying that she thinks that we had gotten married too soon.
The real problem however, is that she hasn't dealt with her borderline bi polar disorder. She has massive amounts of anxiety which doesn't help either. She doesn't compartmentalize her stress and it just comes out in one giant stroke of emotion.
I don't want to loose my wife, but it just seems so bleak. She is so angry right now that talking to her isn't even an option. I just simply don't know how to recover >.>
Another problem is that at times I am a bit needy for a guy, I can admit it. However, it is so hard because she distances herself and all I do is want to chase after. Even out therapist said she doesn't understand how we got her, and that a logical person wouldn't decide to move out and consider divorce after a month of hardship.
