A friend of mine just sent me an email.....sort of exactly what I was thinking....
[You are so adorable Jim. For one thing I don't think you should worry so much. And you ARE NOT DUMB! You can't help that you still have strong feelings. If I were you I would not talk to her for a little bit (unless she approaches you first) but DON'T INITIATE ANY COMMUNICATION...and then when you get an opportunity let her know that you would rather be friends than nothing and try to keep it on the down low about your "real" feelings...no matter how hard it is. That is my feeling on all of this.]

The good news is that the boy is still coming for the weekend! smile

M 52
W 40
D 15 (step)
S 12 (step)
Married 7, together almost 8
Separated 1 year before bomb from her "I love you, I'm just..."
BD final 8/22/12