Usually, parties agree to the divorce but disagree on the terms. This sitch is the other way. I am willing to work on custody and division of property and all that. But I don't choose to sign a document that says I believe there are irreconcilable differences in our marriage and so I want to dissolve it.
She has filed the document requesting the divorce. The clock is ticking. We live in a state that allows no-fault divorce, so unless she changes her mind and reverses the process, we _will_ be divorced in the near future. So I have three options. 1) I could counter-sue for divorce based on her adultery. 2) I could dig my heels in and make a lot of trouble, but instead of ending up divorced I would end up divorced and poor with lots of burned bridges. 3) I can work with her on the terms and paperwork. If I 4) do nothing, she or her lawyer will ask for whatever terms they want and the court will grant them.
If I am unwilling to do 1, am I not a fool to choose 3 over 2 and 4? (Honest question) If I choose 3, then the question is how much do I help? I think it is a question of what is in everyone's best interest. I think I'm much better equipped than she is right now to get this done, so I think I'll just do it.
This is why I have been whining about D papers. I know this isn't a place to seek legal advice. But any guidance anyone can offer on how to save my heart or what is best for my kids, etc. That is what I am hoping for. And if it really is your advice, MrBond, that I just do smalltalk and wait on her, well, I'll be thinking about that.
