wife hardends heart

[planet]

Thanks for the words of encouragement.
I've read through most of the forums here and found out that everything i did this few weeks is exactly which i shouldn't like "being there" all the time, pleading, defending myself and so on.

I've realized now that I was very "cold" towards my wife and my children. For that matter, quite a lot of other people as well. I keep to myself, hardly initiate any conversation. I wasn't very loving and did not show much affection to my family. Wasn't great in remembering dates even my own birthday. I listened to her problems with other people but just shut down angrily when the subject was about me. Sometimes, we fight and i gave her the cold shoulder for days.

She did not feel my love even though I loved only her. She did not feel that i care. No phone calls. No asking about her day. Refuse to take days off work to accompany her if she's away on a seminar. No active participation in my kid's development. No calls to ask her whereabouts if she will be late.

I just thought everything's going to be fine. We can take care of ourselves. We don't need help. We don't need affections. BUT i'm wrong, dead wrong. Can I ever change?