I have confronted him several times. His attitude until this most recent time has always been either - I was doing nothing wrong or I am so sorry. He has said I will do whatever it takes to keep us together, he loves me, please don't leave me and then bam he does it again. He says he tries to stay away from OW but....
When I called him and told him I knew who he had breakfast with and wanted him out, he was not apologetic. He actually tried to tell me he was having breakfast with a male colleague. I said that's BS - although I really didn't know; my gut said differently and I bluffed and he thought I knew for sure. At this point, he kind of laughed and said I guess I am being followed. This was when I said I wanted him to move out.
When I got back, he told me he suspected he was being followed but didn't know for sure until that day. I asked him if that was the case, why when you promised to stay away from her and knew it would upset me, why have breakfast with her? He said he just wanted to confirm it. This makes no sense to me. Its like he wanted me to catch him and then file for divorce.
As I mentioned I still haven't told him I know about my car. Not sure if I should. What do you think? This is a major betrayal for me. If you think I should tell him I know, how do I do it?
When this started before I was actually aware there could be an OW - I was looking great. I was in the best shape of my life, planning on running my first race (which I finished) and happy as a clam with MY life. I knew our marriage had issues but hoped when his travel stopped we would get back together. So I was GALing pretty well before this came down.
As for GALing now - I am working out again; An injury has kept me down for a little while and I am still recovering. I have put on some weight due to medication and the injury but am going to take it off. I am exceling at my job but he doesn't know this (my situation is affecting my job but I am working on it).
I am not going out though. I do not know how to go out. What do I say to him? Also I work 9 hour days with an hour commute on either side so it makes for a long day. I was going out on the weekends occassionally and he would say stuff like Have fun, enjoy yourself, etc. Never asked where I was going or who with. Several times I have gone out to happy hours with "work" people. Yes a couple of times it was just one friend or alone, but most of the time he would be asleep in his room when I got home and never mentioned it to me. My other reluctance is if I start going out - he is going to go out.......I know I should not care what he does, but I do. I can't help if people tell me when they seem him out though but for now I have officially stopped spying on him.
He has been married before a couple of times. I know I should have known better but he had what I thought were justified reasons. First one ran off with another man, etc.
