Linda, I just realized that I had not answered some of your questions about the OW/GF. Whatever I know about her, is only what he has told me. And whatever she knows about me, he has told her. In order to make himself comfortable, he has had to lie to both of us. What I know of her is very limited: she is in her late 30s, blond, "heavy-set", two kids (2 and 6), is going through a divorce and "desperately trying to save her marriage", at one time "things had plateaued" with them and then they "threw in the towel" but there were no bad feelings. Last I heard, he was visiting her again. She was described as "fun, friendly and a great mother." (Quite frankly, I disagree with the last bit, she is exposing her very young children to her boyfriends and she is not even divorced).
I know none of the details of her breakup nor do I know what she looks like (although I confess I would like to know).
He once admitted that he talked to her about me and that she was the only one "fighting for our friendship" That was like taking a bullet. Because I knew then that he had passed us off as being only friends. He basically confirmed that.
At the beginning, the GF was my biggest hurdle to contacting him. In some respects she still is. But this silence and coldness and "abandonment" has become a disturbing pattern. I don't want to be hurt again now that I am getting better.
