Still Struggling and need help #4

[CharlieBrown]

Counseling session went well. Actually ended after only 45 minutes because I think C thought he had tackled chapter 2 of reconnecting our sex lives.

The purpose of the exercise was to force the rejector to feel what it was like to be rejected, and the initiator to feel what it was like to reject. Ok and everything, but didn't have any impact on W (according to her) and not a lot on me.

Talked a lot about what we each want to see in terms of initiating, frequency, communication, etc. W blamed it on the stress of the last few months and I said "I can appreciate you saying that, but I think this has been the pattern for our whole marriage, so I am confused about this being tied to the last few months." W seems focused on saying all the right things in MC and I had to call BS on this one. But, more good discussion after. W committed to a lot of things she needs to do better and will focus on and while that would be nice, I honestly have 0% expectation. SSM is after all, what originally led to my Charlie Brown nickname...

But, good session and no, I didn't mention her ongoing fascination with tat-boy. I feel like MC has moved onto building a second story onto the house while the basement was not fully repaired, so it was tough not saying anything, but I heard what you all said.

CB