Last time we met for coffee we just hung out for an hour and I waited for her to bring up D or R or whatever. She didn't. She was pretty frustrated and has been sorta-trying to get together to talk for the last month. Rather than smile through another meetup and have her frustrated (at me) that we didn't bring up anything up, I just asked if she wanted to talk about anything. I think that I have gotten some out of your responses in the past and I appreciate you and this community so much. But in response to, "Your actions or attitudes haven't changed which is why she hasn't changed" I feel it a bit knee-jerk. I'm not pushing her or goading her. I have been living in limbo for two years while she has been having an affair. I certainly have my issues, and I'm working on them, but blaming her not changing on my not changing I consider unfair judgement. But that's ok.
