But T, that is not how it should work, right? Kind of goes with the lifeboat exercise...if you had a life boat and could only bring 4 people with you, who would it be? 3? 2? 1? I believe that the 1 should be your spouse.

As a boater, I am planning on keeping this a hypothetical...

CB

PS - The good news is 6 months with no chew. Even going through her MLC, and if anything would get me off the wagon, that would!

Me; 42, W; 43
M; 16 yrs
S12, D9

3/13 - "I want to move to XYZ City (four hours away) and it might be without you, not sure"
5/13 - "Not sure I meant that"