Honestly, that didn't go very well. I kept my cool, mostly. She was just hanging out, mostly. When I invited her to take the conversation past smalltalk she just asked what I was feeling. I said I'm trying to be ok with life not being what I want it to be. After a little while, I asked what she was feeling. She just said a lot of things are making her sad. We got to the D proceedings eventually. Asked her why I hadn't been served papers. Her understanding of the process is apparently different from mine. She has a lawyer who is filling out the papers and once we have agreed to everything then we will go to the judge and that will be it. I tried to explain that I am willing to work with her on the D terms, but not willing to agree on the D. I do not choose to D. She says that makes it a "contested divorce" and will cost thousands more dollars and take at least 7 months. To my understanding, I cannot contest the D, just the terms, which I don't plan to contest. She asked why I wouldn't agree and I said I'm sorry I can't explain it and don't really understand why myself completely. She said it's just pride and I said maybe so.
