I didn't decide to forgo sex, my wife did. I decided to stay in the relationship.
I've tried many of the "methods" for getting a woman to have sex, as if any woman will automatically have sex with you if only you (the man) behaved the right way. We've been on romantic getaways and had a lot of fun otherwise, and my wife hasn't been the least, repeat NOT THE LEAST, interested in sex or anything even remotely erotic.
I'm tired of hearing the advice that well, you can't expect people my age to behave like rabbits and want to jump into bed every day for lots of energetic sex! And, excuse me, why not? I have always been ready for that. Trying to have sex with someone who might, if the phase of the moon is right, have sex with you at the end of the week, is just not very exciting nor ego-building.
If you tell me that the Athol Kay MMSLP method has gotten women who were not at all interested in sex for 10 years to suddenly be interested in sex and want to have it EVERY DAY, then I'll give it a look! But, sex, maybe once a week, but usually, "nah, not today" -- not interested. Just like I wouldn't have been interested in a woman who wanted sex only once a week or two when I was 25 either.
It's a fact of life that many, if not a majority of, women who are into menopause of a diminished, if not completely absent, desire for sex. Of course that is not true for all women, and some even have a heightened desire in menopause. And they post here to make it known they are still interested. But the fact is, they are in a minority. Perhaps I'm in a minority too, being as interested as I am past the age of 60. But we usually are married to people whose desire has disappeared by this time.
