Her? No, she has to get there herself....the more you "nag", the more attractive the addiction/escape is... "See, this is why I smoke, your constant harping on X, Y, Z...I need some release from your pressure", etc. No amount of nagging, talks, or whatever got me to quit smoking until I was ready, on my own... In fact, it generated negative feelings in me towards W and my family, cognitive dissonance is painful, and pushing the blame away onto others for any justification temporarily relieved that pain, and entrenched the smoking habit/behavior. You may want to check out some addiction literature to understand the dynamics better...it will help you detach more from her behavior, and help separate the person from their behavior. I am not generally one to use the "addiction model" box heavily or often, but it does have it's uses and is appropriate in some behavioral sitches.
Counselor? Yes, for you only and let C decide what to do about it with W and MC...
Just my 2.5 cents... T^2
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
