Thanks everybody for the feedback. H is not on facebook. I am not detached. Wish I were, know it would make things easier. I guess I want H to realize what he is missing...
having no expectations is so hard!
That's why I asked if you had read the books. We don't come here and simply detach and leave our spouses alone and feel great about it. It's a process, and an important one. Really look at what AS said. He was instrumental in helping me early in my sitch. It was physically painful to NOT text my H constantly, to do the 180's, the GALs to start the process of detaching. And it is a process. It is also a process to drop expectations and outcomes. But it starts by being willing to take a different path. Actions we feel in our bones that are wrong...but I'm here to tell you, It's imperative.
So...have you read the books?
What were your H's complaints in the M?
What are your 180's you are focusing on this week?
You GALs for the week?
Copy and read daily Sandi's tips. I read them constantly in the first few months. I used this place to vent, but also as a place to put in blacka and white my weekly, daily plans of action. To stay accountable.
M: 9 yrs T: 13 yrs H:34 Me:35, S4, D2, S 7 months Dday 11/12-PA & multiple PAs Dbing 12/12 S 1/13 7/13 H moved back in basement. 8/13 #3 born 10/13 still cheating 10/13 He moves across country, I file for D
