I'm actually totally okay with wading in the pool off the marriage track for the indefinite future. I like the thought of having it all right now. I don't know if that fits into Mr. SS's plans, but we'll see.
Yeah, Bets, I find I've got no desire to actually marry again, even though I prefer being in a long-term monogamous relationship.
Financially, it would be prohibitive - if I lived with a guy right now, I'd lose my remaining 6 years of alimony, which I need. And I wouldn't want to marry before I start collecting Social Security, because I think I will collect more if it's based on my ex's salary than on mine.
And being security-minded when it comes to finances, I like the idea of my retirement savings being completely untouchable by anyone else.
Now - the guy I'm dating has never been married, and I know he actually would LIKE to be married. It means something profound to him about belonging, an issue that has been in his life in many forms. It may end up being a real sticking point between us at some point in the future.
