Still Struggling and need help #4

[CharlieBrown]

Had MC assignment from last week: Sitting across from each other, one spouse tells the other one what they want to do ML and why. Other spouse listens and thanks for the offer, but politely declines. Then switch. Requirement is no ML after. We were told to do it three nights.

Neither of us understood the purpose of this one. We did it two nights, including last night and it was very awkward. Maybe the purpose is for the spouse that usually rejects to feel what it is like to ask and be rejected? Maybe it is to get you to talk about ML? At least W did it, after the first one I really thought last night she wouldn't.

Last night I saw her looking at Twitter to look at tat-boy posts. She said she was taking him off FB and understood the danger, but we never specifically talked about Twitter. She is an adult, not like we needed to have a contract. She must know what she is doing isn't healthy. Haven't said anything about any of this aspect, going to see how MC goes today and might talk to therapist offline about how I should approach this. Not sure if I will do this before today's session or wait.

CB