My dad is the oldest of 7 kids, with a span of 19 years between him and the youngest girl. My aunt is 5 years older than I am, and I LOVE having her for an older sister! He and my aunt are very close too. Hell, he drove his mom to the hospital when she was in labor with her, so go figure?
Gineen, I think what she's saying is just consider that you might feel differently when Mr. Tall, Dark and Hot shows up. We know he's gonna! Besides, maybe he'll come with his own brood, and your house will be filled with kids anyway? You never know.
My special needs kiddo has nothing to do with my age, but a chromosomal deletion that is genetic. That's not on topic here, though,
25, your brother's story made me LAUGH! It's pretty funny how life happens when we are making plans, huh?
I'm actually totally okay with wading in the pool off the marriage track for the indefinite future. I like the thought of having it all right now. I don't know if that fits into Mr. SS's plans, but we'll see. He got really deep on me last night. Normally, that sort of stuff right off the bat scares me. But I guess maybe I've changed. I just told him that I'm a snail and I like to take my feelings nice and slow... that's how I've always been, and it works for me. I guess my sense of humor turns him on. Who'd have thunk?
Gineen, hope your birthday was awesome!
And since 25 shared her stuff, can I just say how happy I am that I can't get pregnant now? What a liberating thing! If there is any blessing in the menopausal process, that's it!
NeedsGrace. Well, I can only answer for myself, and I'm pretty much an anomaly for girlhood. A friend actually told me I got my card taken away a long time ago. I hate shopping, don't watch reality TV, and I generally don't enjoy the pursuits other women typically do and enjoy. My idea of a romantic date is to go to the baseball game, have dogs and beer and hold hands. So you should probably discount what I have to say right off the bat...
I knew I was ready when the manifestation of my fantasy guy didn't make me want to bury my head under the covers. I've said no so many times over the past 8 years that it not only became second nature, but I applauded my own decision! Sometime during the course of this year, the idea started to appeal to me. Then I started to imagine myself being with someone to go to the movies or out to dinner. Once I could do that again, I knew I was at least ready to consider it if the opportunity came my way. I had a long way to go in the process - moving from the idea being appalling to appealing.
Hopefully, the others will weigh in as well.
And welcome here if you need to figure out what you want from that process. That was the whole purpose of this thread!
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
Betsey
