No communication and coldness can be worse than arguing.
Agreed. When W is cold to me I act "as if" everything is good. I'll tell her a couple things about my day, a story or two, act happy and upbeat. If she joins in, great! I'll reward her with more goodness. If she doesn't, I'll back off, do my own thing and give her space.
As long as you don't push it, it's not pressure or pursuit.
Just because she wants to be an iceburg doesn't mean I have to be. I see no benifit to returning coldness with coldness. It only drives you farther apart.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
