We went through some tough times in our marriage due to it being an SSM. One of use wanted a lot of sex, while the other changed to not want it at all. But we are now getting along very well because we realize there is no reason to let our differences about sex affect all the other good things about our marriage.
So we are now getting along well in spite of it continuing to be an SSM, between us at least. We each get our needs met to some degree, though not in ways we are too excited to announce to the world -- so that is the price we pay. I realize that others think one should dump one's spouse, properties, in-laws, kids, and everything JUST to make the sex work, only sometimes to find out the new relationship isn't otherwise as good as the old one. So we have chosen not to take that path for now.
I thought I needed to add my version of a reconciliation here because the assumption would otherwise seem to be you could only reconcile by restoring sex to the marriage.
It sounds like you decided to forgo the sex in your relationship, so nothing has changed.
Many of us, having been put in this corner, having this part of life denied from us determined the Athol Kay MMSLP gives a best chance of obtaining intercourse with your own spouse, and if you decide it does not work out - that you are in your prime condition for dating others.
I don't believe someone should be denied a sex life. Not really a fan of "open" relationships, but I see cases where it might be a humane thing to do.
