Remember this is NOT done for affect (that would mean you had expectations!) Its done for your benefit, it helps you detach. It looks like you are still pursuing your H, are you?
I understand the pity party, I think most do that from time to time. Recognizing that you are doing it is good.
Change can be very hard, especially when it is thrust upon us instead of chosen. But regardless of the cause, changes just keep a comin'.
You will be learning valuable things, including the ability to get a decent job and take care of yourself. This is something that you could find yourself in need of no matter how your M turns out. (H could become ill, disabled etc.) And think about what great strength messages you're sending your kids!!
Hang in there WBW. Hope your class went well.
Me 46 H 56 M 22 yrs S22, D20, Twin Ss18
You teach people how to treat you by what you allow. What you stop. And what you reinforce. ~~~~~~~ A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.
