The fault that most of us here have is that for years we enabled their PAIN and tried to help them. After a while the enabling still did not take away their PAIN. That is one of the reasons they are in crisis. Nothing that we or anyone else did could take that PAIN away.
You are obviously not alone in this
Stay strong, your H is looking to you for the impossible because what he needs cannot be found in another. You might comfort for a while, even a long while, but it still would never be enough.
Its so enraging isn't it, when they say basically, "Yeah, so?" My H does this exact same thing to me and it makes me near homicidal and it diminishes me too. I absolutely hate this part of the attitude... just saying I feel ya' girl
What's your next project? Did you say something about a BBQ once?
Make today a good day.
Me 46 H 56 M 22 yrs S22, D20, Twin Ss18
You teach people how to treat you by what you allow. What you stop. And what you reinforce. ~~~~~~~ A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.
