AS, Sorry, but my experience of life at the moment is hand to mouth.
My kids don't have money for food. I have to shop at closing time at the local supermarkets so i can buy the out-of-date food that they put out in the last half hour. It's embarrassing.
I budget on spending $3 for the main course for the 3 of us for each evening meal.
The kids pay for their own clothing and activities out of their own meagre savings that they've amassed since he left (and took their savings with him) because i can't pay all the debts that XH ran up.
We don't have a car because he ran off with ours.
D14 needs a surgery on his tongue to fix a weeping sore that has been coming and going for months because i don't have the money to pay for it. And I have had a half-completed root canal on one site of my mouth for the last 5 months that just has to wait (I hope temporary fillings last that long), while I can't even eat on the other side as it makes another tooth ache too much to do so.
So, please don't tell me that him spending $200 on Fr champ and chocs isn't significant.
And when you claim to be so poor that you can't afford legal representation and argue that you can only afford to pay $50 to support your own kids, well... give me a break.
This has been his cry for the last 2 years. We have had NOTHING from him in the way of support - and he has taken all of our savings as well.
I am of the opinion that images of him buying Fr champagne will go down a treat when push comes to shove. Put this together with the pics of him and OW on the private yacht sunning themselves in the Mediterranean, and the cc records that show his continued frivolous excessive spending on drinking, clothing and entertainment, and you have a pretty compelling case.
Sorry if I sound upset - but I am!
I am aware that what i did was not DB. But I am trying to save my kids and I from a future of poverty.
And you're right, I no longer care that much what he thinks or how this affects my chances of reconciling. I am in survival mode.
