Dawn, Your h has to save himself. You can't do it for him. He's got a lot of lessons to learn and the only way that he will is to work through them and come to the realization that only he has control over what he does w/his life and that happiness comes from within in.
The saying goes "you didn't break him, therefore you can't fix him".
Keep the focus on you and your children. Your h is looking at you to be his savior or should I say "mother"? He's got to learn to sink or swim all by his lonesome.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
