Just saying hello.

[prometheus]

I'm guessing you were on lunch or coffee break? It's tough when you are in Aus time zone and many of the members are in -0500 or so.

You are correct Kaffe Diem! A running lunch break. GMT +1000 here. I had thought about queuing my posts and submitting them at a time when more readers might be about but meh... I am very appreciative of all your input.

Can you talk about how being averse to making firm commitments or boundaries might have affected your M negatively?

Well i think that i can safely say that i don't think that i have ever given that much thought. Now that you have, in a way, paraphrased what i said, i can see that there would probably be many issues that my wife could potentially have around this. In fact i feel ashamed now to think of how lazy i have been in some aspects of our marriage.
Maybe she didn't want to make all of the decisions? I've been pretty unconscious all these years, just working a job, being content with my lot with no real ambition(my wife has never complained about this though). I don't want to make excuses - i have not been a great husband.