I'm actually going to start counseling soon -- I have to have an appointment with my primary care first, and that's in the next few days. I've been hesitant to go because I was afraid I'd get him in trouble somehow -- I'd heard that getting marked out by a military doctor as depressed or whatever was a great way to mess up your H's career, particularly when they're trying to get promoted. But, you know, I'm desperate, so this is one of my 180s. Maybe if my mental/emotional house is in order, the rest of my life will follow.
He's not in counseling AFAIK. He probably should be. We just had another conversation, and I'm pretty sure he was drunk. I had said I was going to call him to let him know what the lawyer said about serving him. We talked a little about the D and I asked him how his hospital stuff was going, and it was like pulling teeth -- short answers all the way, with me asking questions and him answering. Not really a conversation at all, but it was still nice to hear his voice. Near the end, he volunteered some stories about his day without me pushing for them, and it was like a really brief glimmer of his old, funny, talkative self. Then it was over, he thanked me for calling, and we got off the phone. So that's that. I don't know if I should keep calling every few days or what. Thoughts?
Re: Filing Filing doesn't mean finalized. I put off filing for several months (you'll see that my BD was back in Dec) until he finally said he was going to do it himself ASAP. At that point, I spoke with a lawyer who basically said it was to my benefit to file first. When I say "I don't know that NOT divorcing is an option" I don't mean I feel that way on my end. More, I mean that he's been saying he wants one for months now, and he hasn't said anything to me directly about wanting to try again. In fact, the few times he did say something about wanting to try (back in Jan) he immediately recanted and said he didn't see us working, etc etc. So I don't know how much wiggle room there is in his mind, you know?
Me: 30 H: 29 M: 2 yrs T: 5 years BD: 12/14/12 Divorce talk begins 1/6/13 I filed: 5/20/13 -- no contact since
